I have lived what some might call an ‘interesting’ life.
There have been wonderful, joyous times that I couldn’t believe how ecstatic I felt. But there have also been many more times where I’ve crashed so low I should have made a roadrunner style dent in the pavement. I used to think I was the unluckiest person on earth – and I wasn’t alone. My best friend once said if she hadn’t lived life alongside me, she wouldn’t have believed some of the things that have happened.
For many years, I just existed through it all; fall down, get up, repeat. And then last year, after the most horrific turn of events, something changed.
I kind of figured that there was no lower place to sink. And if that were true, I had to do something about it. I stopped dwelling on the past and worrying about who had hurt me. I stopped panicking about the future. I focused on the here and now, on my beautiful son, on the incredible bunch of friends who have never once left my side through any of the bullshit, and I shifted my thought patterns. I looked for ways I could make positive changes that would reflect kindly back on me.
I’m not minimalising the effort this took – it was hard – and I had to cut a lot of people out of my life to do so. But it’s worked. Even on bad days…deep inside I’m happy. I might be upset or angry or disappointed or hurt, but instead of an undercurrent of misery, there’s one of acceptance and contentment. Of stability and comfort.
I wish I’d learned these lessons many moons ago. It’s never too late though, right? If happiness is something you’re searching for but feel like you haven’t quite reached – print this page and pop it in your pocket – as honestly, just making these simple changes have changed my world. It’s such a nice place to live now.
I get that it seems like a really simplified idea to say “7 steps to be happy”. But honestly. Try it.
Implement these changes, even a little bit at a time – and things will shift for you too.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this! Does it make sense? Do you think it’s ridiculous? Have you found happiness this way, or another? Let me know in the comment box below, or on twitter. We always love to hear from you x