I saw this brilliant quote from Simon Pegg on Facebook this morning and had a lightbulb moment…
I spent much of my life pretending to be cooler than I was. At school, I was a straight A student with the potential to be an athlete. The boys I hung out with didn’t think that was cool, so I stopped trying at school and gave up the track. As an adult, I didn’t always engage with hobbies I was interested in, because the “friends” I had would have ripped the piss out of me.
What does that all come down to? Low self-esteem. If I’d had more confidence, I wouldn’t have cared what anyone else thought. If I had always surrounded myself with people who really loved me, I wouldn’t have felt so judged.
I think that’s my favourite thing about being a grown up. I get to do my own thing, and no-one I care about gives two hoots. I can try a new style, spend all night coding, get buried in nerdy books, have a childish love for something ridiculous, obsess over new gadgets, even (god forbid) have intelligent opinions about politics and current affairs – and it’s all good.
My real friends might not understand some of the things I love, but it doesn’t matter. We respect each other.
And I’ve learned to respect my inner-geek (which maybe isn’t so inner anymore.)
I’m immensely proud of getting to a place where I actually like myself enough to be honest about who I am. It really is liberating – as Simon Pegg said.
However old you might be, I say embrace who YOU are. Geekiness and all. You’ll feel great about it!