Samantha Brick: Confident, or Delusional?

Oooh, I feel the need to rant this morning. I apologise in advance – but this is just a topic I couldn’t ignore.

Before yesterday, it’s highly unlikely you’ll have known much about Samantha Brick. I didn’t. We’d have no reason to.

However, if you were on Twitter, saw a paper or had a conversation with just about anyone yesterday afternoon, you’ll almost certainly have read or at least heard about her article in the Daily Mail.

Samantha claims that she is so beautiful, men fall over themselves to make her life easier. From strangers jumping in front of her to pay her cab fare, to airline pilots sending her free bottles of champagne, to bartenders “shooing away her credit card”, she is used to life being made easier by her stunning good looks. You may think this sounds lovely. But no. Samantha says being so gorgeous is hard – no women like her because they feel insecure beside her. All her “friends” are scared she will sleep with their husbands. People who once enjoyed her company, suddenly start not to because they are fatter, uglier or generally less attractive. This is the world according to Sam.

Oh, what a surprise this is in the Daily Mail.

Now. First of all, I would like to say that we admire, no…applaud women with confidence. I love women who OOZE with the stuff. Confidence stops people in their tracks, makes people’s heads turn, commands respect. Confidence will get you far. In a world where women are plagued with insecurity due to media images, where eating disorders, body dismorphia and bullying due to appearance are all rife, it should be refreshing to hear a woman speak out about the wonders of being fabulous.

But there was absolutely nothing nice about this story. Samantha comes across as an unpleasant person. The article makes you cringe – with quotes such as “If you’re a woman reading this, I’d hazard that you’ve already formed your own opinion about me — and it won’t be very flattering. For while many doors have been opened (literally) as a result of my looks, just as many have been metaphorically slammed in my face — and usually by own sex.” Oh, Sam. People have formed opinions due to the idiotic article you’ve written. No other reason, love.

Now. I am by no means saying that Samantha is unattractive. She’s not. She is tall, slim and blonde with a reasonably pretty face. She’s the kind of person you’d meet and probably not think twice about afterwards. However, she is NO supermodel. Sam seems to think her detractors are all female, so I have asked many men about this too. The consensus is that she’s a distinctly average lady, and if would be marvellous if she was just happy with herself…and that even if she was the most beautiful woman in the world, this condescending article never needed to be written.

Personally, I know some absolutely drop-dead gorgeous women. Some of whom are not particularly nice, so I choose not to associate with them. There are  many others though, who are beautiful both on the inside and out. Some make their living from their perfectly formed faces. Others do “normal” jobs, such as PR, Nursing and Sales. They are undoubtedly a 10/10 on the looks scale, and guess what, I love them. I am not the only one. They are surrounded by female friends. Their lives are full, happy and packed with goodness, yet they would never in a million years talk about their looks in this manner. OK, occasionally they may get served first at a bar, or a Gentleman may let them get in a cab first, but at no point have I been jealous of them, begrudged them, or felt worried about them being around my man. I am proud of them and feel lucky to call them my friends…not because of the way they look…but because they are wonderful people. And that’s just it, isn’t it?? Friendship is about trust, love and being kind – regardless of somebodies facial features.

It doesn’t matter what Samantha Bricks face looks like. The general tone of her article, and her follow-up piece this morning (in which there is a lovely image of her and her husband with a gun), shows her to have a largely unattractive personality. It concerns me that someone could be so delusional, and I suspect she is in fact a very lonely person. People don’t dislike you because you’re “beautiful”. They dislike you because you are strange, arrogant and have a superiority complex. It makes me mad that one person genuinely believes she is better than others. Perhaps, in fact, it’s Sam who is insecure. Or perhaps, she really is just horrible.

I should probably make something clear, Samantha. I am not writing this article because I am jealous of you, or because I think you are so amazing that if you spent time in the company of my boyfriend he would leave me. I am writing it because I am astonished by your attitude, and your need to publish it. It just screams of attention seeking. Perhaps work is a little slow and you wanted to raise your profile? If so, nice work kid. Shame that this moment of madness will probably ensure that even fewer people wish to be in your company – men OR women.

I’m not denying that some women can be jealous and occasionally and unfortunately make things difficult for others. This is something that needs to change. Women should celebrate each other, encourage individuality, applaud beauty, talent and character alike. However, whether you are aesthetically beautiful or less so…if you are kind, honest and show humility, you will be surrounded by good people and loved.

Perhaps Samantha Brick should remember that.

 
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